After I was robbed and shot in the chest by Tammy Sweeden Reineri, I had many thoughts that haunted me.
According to forensics – no fingerprints were found on the gun that shot me. In the words of the GCPD – We have a case of Attempted Murder.
Why am I alive? I have no idea. The bullet missed my heart by only 1″. Spiritually speaking, maybe “God” spared my life so I could create this blog and expose this MONSTER (Tammy Sweeden Reineri) and other predators to the world.
If you’ve also been a VICTIM from someone you trusted – you might be asking yourself a few of these same questions.
Most sociopaths/psychopaths will often use the same or similar tactics of disarming and victimizing their prey.
These are a few questions I’ve often asked myself.
1. How could I’ve been so foolish? If you’re like me, you’ll be asking this question many times.
2. I wrote down all the red flags and all the times she lied to me and stole from me. I thought, why didn’t I completely wake up sooner?
3. I lost everyone who meant something to me. I became isolated.
I couldn’t figure out why their attitude changed towards me. She never had a good thing to say about my family or anyone I knew.
4. How could I allow her to isolate me from everyone that meant so much to me? Was this done to you too?
5. Why did others in my life remain silent when she was talking behind my back and making up lies about me? Did she threaten them or were they just fooled like me?
6. It’s been almost three years and I still have thoughts of the evil betrayal of this woman. Do you still have thoughts of the monster who ruined your life?
7. It’s difficult for me to trust anyone now. I’m gun-shy. Is it difficult for you to trust now?
8. Anytime someone is nice to me – I wonder if they have an agenda. Has your victimization caused you to be overly suspicious of others?
9. You might ask yourself this question; how could this person do this to me? You probably gave and gave to this person and still they turned you into their victim. I have asked this question thousands of times.
10. Do you wake up with anxiety most days? This is very common. Do you have PTSD? (Post traumatic Stress Disorder)
11. I’ve had to start life all over- starting with nothing. No income, no money, no friends, no relatives. I get scared of my future at times. Was your life turned upside-down ? Was your support system removed as well?
12. Did you rely on local POLICE for support and help? Did they turn out to be almost worthless? Did they also treat you as the criminal?
13. If a sociopath or psychopath has wronged you – then I believe it’s your duty to EXPOSE THEM! Do not allow them to get away totally unscathed. You should try your best to warn others.
14. Do you have a desire to EXPOSE the actions of the sociopath or psychopath who wronged you? I want to hear about your experience with a similar monster. I will try my best to help you “Expose” them. Contact me here.
15. Did you discover the police to be non-empathetic concerning your situation? You can try utilizing the efforts of the police, but I have discovered, along with many others, that the police are not your friends and they are almost totally worthless in providing assistance. Matter of fact, many times, they do more harm than good.
“Sociopaths and Psychopaths are usually very intelligent. They know the difference between right and wrong – they just don’t care. They “think” they are more powerful and more intelligent than the victim and smarter than law enforcement.”
The “Game” of the Psychopath
Let’s talk about this question: How could this “criminal” act happen to you and why did this happen to you? If you’re dealing with a sociopath/psychopath, then you may not want to know this answer, but after much research, this is what I discovered and it’s not pleasant.
I hope I can explain this in the simplest form because I know you’re asking this question over and over. Why and How you became a victim of a sociopath or psychopath? You simply became a target or a “game” to a psychopath without knowing. You walked right into the path “web” or psychological “grips” of a Psychopath.
“A Psychopath Chose You as Their “Target” Because You Have Something They WANT”.
There are literally thousands – some say MILLIONS of psychopaths. These predators are always seeking “prey”. It’s not your fault – however, with some knowledge of detecting a psychopath it might help you to avoid the next “attack”.
This is why I wrote the book, “A Devil in Disguise.” Even with all the studying and research on this subject, I’m still not a total expert – but I’ve learned a lot through my experience and the research I’ve done. By the time you read my book (a real life experience) and review the blogs and pages on this website (plus the resources available) you’ll be able to sniff out a sociopath or psychopath a lot sooner or easier than before. I promise.
Psychopaths are big “game” players. Psychopaths look at others as being part of their survival game. If YOU have something “they” want – then they simply play a game to see how easy and how fast they can get it.
Sociopaths/psychopaths are nothing but “parasites”. They cross boundaries; lie, harm, steal and murder without empathy for anyone. Psychopaths are not your ordinary garden variety criminal. Psychopaths do not have a conscience. They often use the emotional trust or bond they created with you.
Psychopaths are Simply THIEVES . . .
Psychopaths have insatiable NEEDS. They crave SEX, Power, Money, Influence and Control. They will manipulate and usually use the same (proven) tactics to get what they want. Their tactics seldom vary too much, but once you recognize their traits, words and devices, then you can avoid them.
- If you have something they want, then they will simply devise a plan to STEAL it from you. It’s just that simple. No matter what boundary a psychopath crosses, it’s all about THEFT.
- If they want sex from you – then they will tell you what you want to hear to get SEX. If it means taking your LIFE to get what they want, then the THEFT of your life may also happen.
- If they lie – it’s the theft of the truth.
- If they cheat, it’s theft of honesty and loyalty.
- If they steal your assets or money – it’s theft of what belongs to you.
- Psychopaths are THIEVES and are usually devoid of emotion or conscience once it’s stolen from you. They do not care how much mental, physical or financial pain you suffer resulting in their actions. It usually brings them joy to see you suffer.
Any emotion you see, is usually an ACT. They learn to mimic other human beings. They have no empathy or sympathy for you – whatsoever. The only pain or pleasure “real’ is their own pain or pleasure.
The easiest way to get what you own is to be charming and build TRUST. Often, they can steal without detection by diverting the blame to someone else or by leaving no evidence behind that points towards them – then naturally the crime goes unsolved without them being the culprit. Game over – The Psychopath WINS THE GAME.
There are many “games” the psychopath may play. It all depends on what you own and what it will take for them to steal it from you. It’s a game to them. Example. Con Game. This is why it’s called a game. Psychopaths actually enjoy playing the game to win. Psychopaths are con-artists and are good at deception and manipulation. If “you” need to die in order for them to WIN the ‘game’, then you will probably die.
Psychopaths have a variety of ways to kill you and still go undetected. Examples: 1) Make it look like a suicide. 2) Poison
3) Over-dose of medication or drug. 4) Killed and buried / body not found. 5) Victim dies because it appears to be a fatal accident.
The first thing to remember; The psychopath never bond with you. You are simply an “object” or a character in their game. However, it’s part of the game to make you bond with them to build TRUST. This is done in order to learn about you, your vulnerabilities, your assets, where assets are located – and they learn all of this because either they got close enough to snoop and find out or because you “willingly” revealed the information to the psychopath.
If you bond with them on a deep emotional level – then they will WIN the GAME. You become the puppet and they become the puppet master. You may start to depend on them and once this is done, then the real control begins.
ISOLATION is another key ingredient in the control factor of the PSYCHOPATH.
1. Isolation is a way for the psychopath to control you. The less influence you have in your life the easier you can be controlled,
2. In the wild, predators isolate their prey from the rest of the herd to better attack and devour it. That’s precisely what psychopaths do to their targets.
3. Psychopaths will isolate their victims from their friends, colleagues and families. Sometimes they opt for subtle manipulation, such as by covertly turning the victim against their own family and friends (and vice versa).
4. The psychopath may make up lies to about their victim to their family or friends to turn them against him or her. Naturally, it’s all done with subtle remarks.
5. The psychopath does not want your friends and family influencing you or offer negative opinions about the controlling behavior of the “devil” himself. Sometimes you will withdraw from friends and family – causing them disappointment and separation.
6. The psychopath usually will isolate it’s victim and make them think the ONLY person who cares about YOU and the ONLY person you can TRUST is the “devil” himself. Soon, the psychopath has total control of the victim. “A Devil in Disguise”
They have the ability to make you “think” you’re loved and are cared about – when at the same time – the PSYCHOPATH could care less if you live or died.
This is why you feel foolish when the sociopath/psychopath steals part of your life. You come to a realization the person (psychopath) was just an actor or actress – it was all a HOAX or LIE and you’re left with nothing but financial, physical or emotional scars and devastation.
The Game is NOT over if YOU Never Quit.
Expose these Criminals – Warn Others.
Never, Never, Never QUIT!
According to Dr. Hare –
Unlike sociopaths/psychopaths who simply cheat on their wives or defraud people, the violent ones tend to get the attention of law enforcement. Dr. Hare found that 25% of the men in a treatment program for wife assault were psychopaths. And, he says, about half of serial rapists are psychopaths.
Psychopaths make up 1% of the general population, but 25% of the prison population, according to Dr. Hare. “Violence is not uncommon among offender populations, but psychopaths still manage to stand out,” he says. “They commit more than twice as many violent and aggressive acts, both in and out of prison, as do other criminals.”
When they get out of jail, they often return to crime. “The recidivism rate of psychopaths is about double that of other offenders,” Dr. Hare says. “The violent recidivism rate of psychopaths is about triple that of other offenders.”
These people do not change. You will not be able to help them. If you see violence—any kind of violence—get away.
First of all, not everyone who harms people are considered to have a mental disorder. However, you might be asking yourself;
Does she/he lie, cheat, steal, commit fraud, use people then discard them, have fits of rage, seem self-centered or have no conscience? Do you feel like something is wrong with the person, but you are not sure what it is?
Some people call them “emotional vampires”.
Sociopaths/Psychopaths are sneaky and will worm their way into your life. You’re thinking . . . something about this man/woman is NOT quite right. They might seem a little “quirky”. They are “usually” almost too NICE. A psychopath has no identity – they can almost “morf” themselves into your lifestyle and belief system. They will usually agree with most things you say. They usually have no opinions. They are empty creatures.
You can’t put your finger on it, and you hesitate, but they suck you in anyway. These people are usually very charming. They will create an act to win you over usually with sympathy and providing you with what therapists like to call “love bombs”. They are quick to notice your vulnerabilities.
- They pour on the compliments and this causes you to feel special and important. This works for most people. Most people enjoy compliments.
- He/she convinces you they have been misunderstood all their life, and you are the only PERSON on earth who understands them now. “They are so lucky to have found YOU.”
- You feel validated and needed and this sucks you in deeper and deeper over time. Phrases like; “Just you and me babe – against the world.”
I’ll use the word sociopath/psychpath because it is the most recognizable. Psychopaths are usually equated with Hollywood serial killers, etc. Not all psychopaths murder – however, they are never opposed to it if it’s required to further their agenda.
Psychopaths are extremely prevalent in our society. A sociopath is usually more impulsive in his/her actions. A psychopath will often plan their action against you.
The Brain of a Sociopath or Psychopath Does Not Work Right.
The most important thing to know is that a sociopath/psychopath is actually missing a part of their brain.
More specifically, they are missing one of the building blocks of their personality. This is important to understand because it explains the seriousness of this disorder and why it cannot be treated or fixed or cured. Read more here.
In Third World Countries, you seldom find a Psychopath. Why? Because they are usually killed by the villagers. Psychopaths lie, steal and kill people. These often (tribal) people know these psychopaths/sociopaths are not curable and they will not change – so they are simply killed.
Sociopaths and Psychopaths cause many or most of the harm, theft and murders in our communities. A large percentage of the prison population are full of these people without a conscience, without empathy or sympathy for other human beings.
Part of Their BRAIN is Actually Missing.
The part of their brain that is missing shapes the conscience, and because it is missing, they do not have one. The PSYCHOPATH/ sociopath does not feel guilt, empathy, sympathy, remorse or shame like the rest of us feel when we do something that has wronged another human being.
They are not capable of feeling guilt or shame because they are missing that piece of their personality. Normal personalities would never consider doing the impulsive or criminal actions of these type of people.
When Does the Mask Come Off?
These people are “parasites”. This is their nature. They survive by preying on others. They usually seek out the weaknesses of people by listening closely to their vulnerabilities. They are gathering information on how to steal what you have. (They are the ultimate “Con-Artist”).
They could be after your money, sex, assets or your life. In order for them to steal – they usually must DISCOVER what you own and the location.
If they want what you own bad enough, then they will create a devious plan to steal what you own. If it requires murdering you do it, then that is not out of the realm of possibilities. Naturally, they will divert the act to someone else or it will be done without evidence pointing towards them.
Many times, in order to get the information required from you it will create YOUR TRUST in them. When they strike large enough – they will usually disappear.
Once the MONSTER is exposed and YOU know who the person really is – then the MASK comes off and they simply disappear with whatever they stole, if they didn’t harm or murder you in the process.
You’re usually left alone, isolated and without much recourse. They will be long gone with whatever they stole and hopefully they left you with your “life” in tact. They do not care about how you “feel” about them, because they do not plan to ever see or “think” of you again. You mean “zip, “nada” “nothing” to them.
If you stepped on a blade of grass….how would you feel? Would you feel guilty? I’m sure you wouldn’t. To a psychopath, you’re even less than that blade of grass. Get the picture?
Are You Saying A Sociopath or Psychopath Does Not Care if Their Victim Suffers Physical or Financial Pain?
The ugly truth is; they are devoid of all emotion concerning empathy or sympathy. Any kind of pain you have, means NOTHING to a psychopath. As long as their needs are met, then this is their only concern.-
Matter of fact, it’s been said – a psychopath actually ENJOYS the suffering of their victims. They could care less if you live or die. They see you as an object – not as a human being.
“Even though I’ve been a victim of a heinous crime that wrecked my life as I knew it, I still think I’m the luckiest man I’ve ever known. I’m able to live to tell others that it is possible to survive, even though you looked into the eyes of pure “Evil”. A Devil in Disguise
This month’s blog provides a few popular blogs from the past. Chief James Bensley, Tammy Sweeden Reineri – Corrupt Cops.
Tammay Louise Sweeden a/k/a Tammy Sweeden, Tammy G. Reineri, Casey Cane, Tammy L. Sweeden.
A special thanks goes out to all my readers. I appreciate you stopping by and keeping up with my horrific incident. Maybe with a little help from “above” we’ll get some justice.
Get The Full Story – How I was almost murdered and robbed of my life-savings.
The Questionable Honesty of Chief James Bensley – Garden City Police Department.
Step by Step – In the mind of a Psychopath.
“Evil Can Only Prevail When
Good People Do Nothing!”
